…is surprisingly not, “Has anybody ever told you that you look like Dale Jr.?”
It is something like…
“So Curt, dating anybody these days?”
“Who you dating these days?”
“Are you seeing anybody?”
Or one of my personal favorites…
“So Curt, who is the flavor of the week?”
Or that one I hear in my head sometimes…
“Wow Curt, almost 30 and you are STILL single? What is wrong with you? Loser.”
Anyway, I guess it is normal for single people to get asked this question. Especially as we get older. Makes sense. Come to think of it though - It is usually non-single people who ask me this. Single people rarely ask. It’s like the non-single people have to look out for us single folks and check up on us from time to time to see if we are making any progress towards the blissful land of non-singleness.
Ready for my standard response?
“You know, nobody right now. It’s funny, I just haven’t been thinking much about that lately. I don’t really worry about it. If it happens, it happens.”
Or my NEW favorite response...
“Nobody right now. I don’t really have much desire to pursue a relationship right now given the fact that I might be moving within a year. I mean…God is really going to have to hit me over the head with a relationship to knock me off the course of this missionary thing.”
Did you hear that God? Did you read my Blog today? You really better throw a relationship my way IF YOU WANT ME TO STAY IN THE USA?
What was that? I can’t play the “I’m going to move and become a missionary” card in order to get you to give me a relationship faster? Oh, ok.
All kidding aside. Most days I seriously go through the whole day without the thought of being in a relationship even crossing my mind. Don’t get me wrong…(And Warren can attest to this) I still love girls (especially Carrie Underwood right now) and if God blesses me with a relationship…Rock on. But the ironic thing is that somehow through the course of not really thinking about girls/relationships as much, I have actually begun to love girls even more.
It’s funny how girls become the most beautiful creatures in the world when you actually stop looking at them and turn your eyes towards God. I would have never believed this true unless I had tried it. It’s as if God gave me some new kind of Acuvue contact lenses and then when I turned back and looked I was like “Wow. Dude. Nice job.” And I really love it how after God made the entire creation, the ultimate picture of perfection, it wasn’t complete until she showed up.
To put it simply - God has just turned down the volume in this area of my life. It just doesn’t stress me out as much as it used to. He fulfills me. He sustains me. He has given me more peace, joy and contentment that I have ever felt in my entire life.
As someone reminded me of recently…you just need to focus your eyes on God and run after Him as fast as you can. Then one day you might look beside you and see someone running with you towards that same goal.
I like the sound of that. Stay classy